Is Your Marriage Losing Its Spark?
The spark of love and romance does not have to fade away. If your marriage is filled with conflict and emotional distance – if your partner seems more like just a friend than a romantic partner – couples counseling may help in restoring love and desire to your relationship.
You’re pretty sure marriage is not supposed to be like this…
Have you ever wondered if it’s possible to repair your marriage? Would you like to build a more deeply loving relationship with your partner?
You can learn how to get your needs met, improve your marriage, enjoy better communication, experience your home as a sanctuary, and work together in parenting your children.
As a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, I help struggling couples who long for love to reconnect in a happier, more satisfying relationship. Couples sometimes settle for being miserable. I recommend that you don’t just settle – come in to counseling and learn the secrets to more happiness and fulfillment.
About Couples Counseling
When a relationship has become strained or distant and you are not feeling close to your partner, you may feel hopeless that things will ever change. I believe both you and your spouse want to feel understood and that your needs will be met and respected. Couples Counseling will help you reconnect.
Both of you want a happy and loving environment that you come home to at the end of the day. When there is too much alienation or conflict, it may be time to see a therapist for couples counseling. Counseling may help improve empathy and understanding. It will help both of you talk to each other, and will help you listen to what is being said.
Counseling can help you and your partner move beyond a pattern of conflict and return to love.
Issues that come up in couples therapy may include
- anger management
- the silent treatment
- sexual problems
- money issues
- past hurts that never got resolved
- Affairs
- anxiety and depression issues
- alcohol and substance issues
- Conflicts in relationship with family and in-laws
What I have been finding is that husbands and wives are not listening to each other. They are not really communicating effectively. There is hope – men and women can listen to each other with understanding and caring.
It takes the average couple six years to come in to couples counseling – after the time they first think they should. This is emotional pain that you don’t have to go through – if you seek out help sooner.
We are not taught how to have a happy relationship in school. There are no required classes in how differently men and women experience the world. But is is dramatically different.
Yes, I know…in some ways it is very similar. But it is the differences that are crucial to understand. In couples counseling you will get the training they never provided in school. Training to know how to understand men, successfully handle women and their feelings, keep your partner happy, and get your needs met too.
By the way, there does seem to be a point of no return – where it is too late to repair a marriage. Don’t wait until you get to this point. Take action now. There is a saying: “Fortune favors the bold”. Be bold and get the support you need to repair your relationship.
Cheating
and Affairs
When an affair is discovered, the couple experiences what may be the most painful event in the relationship. While the partner who cheated may not realize it at first, trust has been absolutely shattered. Many couples do want to discuss what happened, repair the relationship and recover from the shock and damage to the marriage. It is possible to recover from this event, but it is usually difficult and painful. Many couples find it helpful to work with a couples counselor to repair the damaged trust, figure out what went wrong in the relationship prior to the affair, and strengthen the relationship for the future.
Are you longing for more love or attraction?
Or are you longing for more sensuality and romance? I work with you to help you understand the loss of love and attraction between you and your partner and then we sort out exactly what you can do to fix things. Fixing things includes better communication, learning how to do things differently, and making changes that restore love, affection, attraction, harmony and good will towards each other. You will actually make changes right there in the therapy office, and then you will have plenty of opportunities to practice at home between sessions. And you will then have a better chance for success and happiness in your marriage.
Visit me in my Petaluma Office in the heart of Sonoma County
I am available to meet with you personally for a couples session or an individual strategy session about your relationship.
I see couples who:
- Are stuck in patterns of poor communication
- Believe there is something wrong with their relationship
- Have ongoing unresolved conflicts with their spouse, child or in-laws
My specialties are marriage counseling and help with relationship problems at work, at home, with friends and family.
I offer a complimentary 10 minute Relationship Assessment to explore what’s going on in your relationship and ways I can help you.